It was my intention to recap the whole lesson at Mom Time last week here on my blog. It was excellent material, presented very well.
I lost my notes.
But, truly I think I retained quite a bit of what was shared, so I thought I would attempt to recap it anyway. So, here goes...
After Sherry set up the whole idea that sex is vital to our marriage and created by God the "Yeah, buts" started. Beginning with "Yeah, but what if it hurts?" Excellent question that every woman that has ever given birth is gonna ask. In addition to the physical pain that can sometimes strike there is sometimes emotional pain originating in past abuse. Lots of things can work to make sex painful and Kim H tried to address many of the presenting issues. She made everyone laugh by giving away bottles of K-Y jelly which she heavily recommended for lots of reasons.
The bottom line in dealing with pain: don't ignore it, get help and COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR SPOUSE! My favorite line from Kim H "I had a friend who...okay it was me!"
Of course at a place like Mom Time (read, everyone has youngish kids) a frequent question is "yeah, but what about the kids?" Babies change things and older kids change things even more. Debbie shared lots of ideas like putting a lock on your door, being creative with times and locations, making good use of children's videos and other distractions - generally find a way to make it happen.
The bottom line in dealing with kids: keep them in proper perspective, don't be afraid to let them see you kiss or slip away and COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR SPOUSE! My favorite line from Debbie "Don't make him feel less important than the kids!"
Kim B spoke to all our thoughts when she answered the question "Yeah, but what if there isn't time?" I am most sad about losing what I wrote down cause she had lots of really good zingers, which was good cause she was very pointed about a very serious topic - we need to make time! Wow, probably most wives in the room were hoping that the answer would be "yeah, you're busy and that's okay!" But, it's not. Kim addressed that we need to make sex in our marriage a priority and talked about it from the standpoint of protecting the schedule, planning for it and not making our husbands wonder if he'll get any when he gets home.
Bottom line in arranging our priorities: our goal should be to meet our husbands needs and therefore we should be intentional about making sure sex happens! My favorite line from Kim B "I'm just challenging you all to step it up in this area - make him glad to come home!"
The bottom line for the whole topic can be best summed up in my favorite line from Sherry "Be like Nike and just do it!"
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